Sunday, November 29, 2015

Roles of Father, Mother and Children in God’s Awesome Plan for Our Families (part 2 of 4)

What is God’s plan for your family?
What is His plan for fathers’ roles with their children?
What is the biggest detriment to that plan that we don’t even realize until it is too late?
What can we do to bring that plan into being for our families?

Yesterday we looked at:

Day 1 – God’s Plan for Our Homes and Families and How that Plan is Accomplished

Today we will look at:

Day 2 – Roles of Father, Mother, and Children in that Plan

Don’t miss tomorrow when we will look at the reason that God’s plan for families isn’t being realized and lived out:

Day 3 – The Destruction of Our Family and the Abomination that Works Desolation in our Homes and Families

and Saturday:

Day 4 – How to Break Free from the Enemy’s Grips to Get back to God’s Plan for our Homes and Families

Take the time to read through the BOLD OUTLINE and WORDS at least so you know what is destroying our families from the inside out.  This is a culmination of a 10+ year Bible study on this and I know you will love it!

Part 2 – Roles of Father, Mother and
Children in God’s Awesome Plan for Our Families

I.          Fathers

            A.         Are to train, correct and discipline (reproves, warns, instructs) their children.          

“And have you [completely] forgotten the divine word of appeal and encouragement in which you are reasoned with and addressed as sons? My son, do not think lightly or scorn to submit to the correction and discipline of the Lord, nor lose courage and give up and faint when you are reproved or corrected by Him; For the Lord corrects and disciplines everyone whom He loves, and He punishes, even scourges, every son whom He accepts and welcomes to His heart and cherishes. You must submit to and endure [correction] for discipline; God is dealing with you as with sons. For what son is there whom his father does not [thus] train and correct and discipline? Now if you are exempt from correction and left without discipline in which all [of God’s children] share, then you are illegitimate offspring and not true sons [at all].  Moreover, we have had earthly fathers who disciplined us and we yielded [to them] and respected [them for training us]. Shall we not much more cheerfully submit to the Father of spirits and so [truly] live? For [our earthly fathers] disciplined us for only a short period of time and chastised us as seemed proper and good to them; but He disciplines us for our certain good, that we may become sharers in His own holiness. For the time being no discipline brings joy, but seems grievous and painful; but afterwards it yields a peaceable fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it [a harvest of fruit which consists in righteousness—in conformity to God’s will in purpose, thought, and action, resulting in right living and right standing with God].  (Hebrews 12:5–11 AMP)

“He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline (reproof warning correction instructs) him”. (Proverbs 13:24 NIV)

“Whoever refuses to spank his son hates him, but whoever loves his son disciplines (reproof warning correction instructs) him from early on”. (Proverbs 13:24 GW)

1Th. 2:11 For you know how, as a father [dealing with] his children, we used to exhort each of you personally, stimulating and encouraging and charging you.

            B.         Has compassion (loves; has mercy) for his children

Psa. 103:13   As a father has compassion for his children, so the LORD has compassion for those who fear him.

Col. 3:21 Fathers, do not provoke or irritate or fret your children [do not be hard on them or harass them], lest they become discouraged and sullen and morose and feel inferior and frustrated. [Do not break their spirit.]

            C.         Joys in his children; raises wise children

Prov. 23:24 The father of the [uncompromisingly] righteous (the upright, in right standing with God) shall greatly rejoice, and he who becomes the father of a wise child shall have joy in him.

            D.         Manages the household well, and knows how to keep his children under control with dignity that commands respect

1Tim. 3:12 Let deacons be the husbands of but one wife, and let them manage [their] children and their own households well.

1Tim. 3:4 He must rule his own household well, keeping his children under control, with true dignity, commanding their respect in every way and keeping them respectful.  For if a man does not know how to rule his own household, how is he to take care of the church of God?

            E.         Prioritizes his family and knows the irreplaceable role they play in their everyday lives.

9 Important Ways Dads Impact The Lives Of Their Children
Despite all of society’s advances over the past century, men are still -- too often -- viewed by some as their own children’s “babysitters”; when in actuality, research supports the irreplaceable role they play in their everyday lives.
We partnered with Johnson & Johnson to share findings from the report on global fatherhood, as well as from several other studies that examine the powerful and enduring influence fathers can have on their children.
1.  Their kids play well with others
2.  Their partners and babies are healthier
3.  Their children are more prepared for school…
4.  And go on to be more successful academically
5. Their children start speaking earlier and are more verbally expressive
6.  Their children grow up less prone to depression
7. Their sons are less likely to be in trouble
8. Their daughters are more ambitious in their careers
9. …and have a more positive self-image
Fathers play an important -- and sometimes overlooked -- role in the development of their children. From their role in prenatal care, to how they play, communicate and act as role-models for their kids, loving, engaged dads have been shown to have a tremendous impact on how a child grows up. They are truly irreplaceable. Johnson & Johnson celebrates dads and all parents for the incredible role they play in in making the world a better, more caring place for their children.
(http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/07/29/why-dads-matter-state-of-fatherhood-report_n_7785938.html)

II.         Mothers

            A.        Train Their Children

Prov. 29:15 The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left undisciplined (without reproof warning correction instruction) brings his mother to shame.

            B.         Comfort Their Children

Is. 66:13 As one whom his mother comforts, so will I comfort you; you shall be comforted in Jerusalem.

Correction and discipline (reproof warning correction instruction ) are good for children. If they have their own way, they will make their mothers ashamed of them”. (Proverbs 29:15 GNB)

            C.         Comes Alongside Their Children

“The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame”. (Proverbs 29:15 KJV)

III.       Parents

            A.        Discipline and Train Their Children without Over-Indulging Them

Prov. 13:24 (MSG)               A refusal to correct is a refusal to love; love your children by disciplining (reproving warning correcting instructing) them.

Prov. 19:18 (MSG)               Discipline (reprove warn correct and instruct) your children while you still have the chance; indulging them destroys them.

“All children are foolish, but firm correction will make them change”. (Proverbs 22:15 CEV)

Discipline (reprove warn correct and instruct) your children while they are young enough to learn. If you don't, you are helping them destroy themselves”. (Proverbs 19:18 GNB)

Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying”. (Proverbs 19:18 KJV)

Correct your children before it's too late; if you don't punish them, you are destroying them”. (Proverbs 19:18 CEV)

IV.        Children

            A.         Must be trained to honor and regard and respect their parents

Regard (treat with honor, due obedience, and courtesy) your father and mother, that your days may be long in the land the Lord your God gives you.”
(Exodus 20:12 AMP)

            B.         Must be trained to obey their parents

Children, do what your parents tell you. This is only right. “Honor your father and mother” is the first commandment that has a promise attached to it, namely, “so you will live well and have a long life.
 (Ephesians 6:1–3 MESSAGE)

CHILDREN, OBEY your parents in the Lord [as His representatives], for this is just and right. Honor (esteem and value as precious) your father and your mother—this is the first commandment with a promise—That all may be well with you and that you may live long on the earth.
(Ephesians 6:1–3 AMP)


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